What your friends aren’t telling you
There’s so much noise in the world right now. Do this. Don’t do that. You need this strategy. I have the secret that you need to find love - but you need to buy my coaching/course/membership/workshop. And most of it just turns out to be more bullshit.
I started my blog without a clear vision or direction for where I would take it and I only wrote when I felt inspired. For years, I sat with myself asking the question “what do I want” and seeking my “why” to have it come crashing down with crystal clarity one day. This day. I simply refuse to do things that insult my soul. It’s my moral compass - my true north. I knew this before, but I’ve finally decided to embody and accept it.
What I realized after reading so many dating books, blogs, popular social media feeds, and watching advice videos trending on YouTube, is that it’s the same regurgitated ass shit.
I’ve watched YouTube videos made by hateful men who have been hurt, and now they’re taking it out on everyone else or women who are in a relationship now and want to lecture you on how you need to do things like them. It’s bullshit. One is speaking from a place of trauma, and the other isn’t taking into account that what worked for them might not work for you.
So we’re going to have a candid conversation here. While the basics aren’t always sexy, they do work.
There’s only one way through this and that’s to recognize what aligns with you and get more clear on YOUR truth.
I’m going to drop some truth bombs.
There are good men out there.
Have you noticed that there seems to be a repeating pattern in your love life? Fuck it, let’s just be honest, there are repeating patterns in multiple areas of your life. Work, friends, your fitness, whatever. Could it be that the reason the same situations keep happening to you over and over is because you keep doing the same things over and over, and you’re doing the same things because your beliefs haven’t changed? Your beliefs are just thoughts you continue to think so there’s your first hint - what are your deep-seated beliefs, and how are you thinking?
I did this for around two decades, so no stones are thrown here but are you actually clear about what a casual relationship looks like versus an actual committed long-term relationship? No shade. I didn’t know either.
Do you actually understand that everything is energy? The vibe, the feeling. If you want a masculine type of man, you know the one who makes you glad to be a woman, competing with him, belittling him, and that “I’ll show you who’s smarter” attitude will keep you where you are now.
If you’re reading this and you vibe with me, let’s get some obvious truths out of the way. You don’t hate men, and you know there are good ones out there. You’re ready to face that you have a part in it, and you’re ready to do something about it. You acknowledge that what you have been doing isn’t working, and you’re ready to try something else. You’re ready to explore your values and beliefs and consider other perspectives.
